A methodology for dating
Turn your dates into data.
Same apps. Same dates. Better calls. Take a short audit, date a few people slightly outside your usual type, and walk away with a playbook of what actually works for you.
Riley’s best match was someone they almost skipped.
Slightly outside Riley’s type. Quieter spark. The math said go back. Date 9 was the same person. The most compatible of the nine.
The person who almost gets skipped.
Top-left cluster. High spark, low compatibility. The familiar trap. You’ve been here before.
Right of your bar, quieter spark. Dates 05 and 09 are the same person, slightly outside Riley’s usual type. Most people don’t go back for a second date. The scores said to. They were the most compatible of the nine.
Your bar is set by the average of dates 1–3. Stedi only surfaces dates that clear it.
01 / How it works
Five steps.
An hour up front. Ninety seconds per date. See the science.
Name your dealbreakers
What’s off the table. We never ask you to reconsider these.
5 minutesFind your real type
A short conversation about who you keep getting drawn to. We send back a wider type, so finding good dates on your apps gets easier.
20 minutesDate with intention
Score each one in 90 seconds. Three dates set your bar. Nine sharpen it. Stop whenever you want.
A few monthsRead your data
A short playbook. Your real type, your bar, what to do next.
On demandStay sharp
Score new dates against your bar. The picture sharpens over time.
Open ended02 / The playbook
Nine dates in, you have a benchmark.
A short read of your own data. Your pattern. Who cleared your bar. The standard to hold the next person to.
The big spark felt familiar. The real fit didn’t.
Two dates cleared the bar. Both Jordan, eight weeks apart. Riley almost didn’t go back for the second one. The scores made the case.
In one number
The gap between Riley’s top-spark dates and their best-fit dates. The pull toward what feels familiar but doesn’t actually work.
03 / The next 90 days
Dating is one skill. Staying is another.
You found someone worth trying with. Now comes the part that matters.
Ninety days of structured reflection. Not on them. On you. How you show up. Where you retreat. Whether you can stay when staying is hard.
After 90 days, it’s yours.
Month 01Noticing.+
Three lines after a real moment. What happened. What you felt. What you did with it. No scoring yet.
Month 02Naming.+
A weekly check opens. Where did you feel the pull to retreat. What did you not say. What felt uncomfortably good. Patterns surface.
Month 03Choosing.+
A short essay back, written from your reflections. Where you stayed. Where you retreated. Where you grew. Then it’s yours.
Closed beta
Ready to go Stedi?
No promise of a relationship. A promise that you’ll know your own pattern, with a bar to hold the next person to. Or take the 60-second quiz first.
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